When I hear this phrase "self esteem", I think about ONE thing
twelve years old girls, telling each other: "Hey, you're a beautiful and smart girl, remember that <3" x
Do you know how does that feel to me?... Brain wash.
First of all, I wanna know, who made it a standard that EVERY person on earth can be considered beautiful if and only if he/she keeps saying that to (him/her)self... no honey, it doesn't work like that
Once upon a time, "self esteem" was a big thing, with a lot of meanings and hardwork into it, but now it just means temporary BS, that is pumped into kids ears just to stop them from taking their own lives
And I get it, kids and everyone else needs help to go on with their lives, but that doesn't mean to teach them to respect themselves for the way they look or how "smart" they are, instead of valuing themselves by their hardwork, their families and those they care about.
And if I could add one more thing before I end this, it is that accepting yourself for who you are doesn't mean that you should leave yourself untreated,
if you're over-weight, you're over-weight and you HAVE to change that, because it's not healthy for you, and because you know you're not comfortable in this body.
If you're having unhealthy relationships, no matter what type of relation it's , you know it's hurting you, and you have to change that
Now, you can convince yourself that it's OK, and that this is you and changing that would change the person you're, but until you admit it that there's something wrong with you, you'll never be the person you're respecting in your mind.
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